When the truth is known, we all, occasionally, suffer from a little bit of arrogance. I'm sure it is just another part of our inherent nature; Another thing we get stuck with and have to struggle, to control. Even when I know I am as guilty as the rest of the human species, and know it leads me down a path of disaster, it keeps popping up and causing me problems. It is just me...or can we admit...all of us?
I guess most of us feel bigger, being right. Ask yourself: Why is it so important to be right all the time? Is a feeling of insecurity, IF we admit we could be wrong? Blind arrogance doesn't leave much room for discussion, and often, the damage done, cannot be UNdone.
Wars are fought, relationships are broken and all around harmony ceases to exist, over something that could have been adequately resolved over a cup of coffee..or maybe tea. Nobody ever wins an argument...And if we slow down enough to see it, a happy medium is usually, right in front of us. It's called compromise! Compromise allows both of us to be, at least partly, right...and still friends...
I have known families to break apart and over the years, the parties involved even forget WHAT they were upset about. They just held this steadfast arrogance and knew there was SOMETHING they didn't like about the other person, but it had lasted so long they forgot, but it didn't matter any more; They wanted no more to do with... even their own blood kin...
I admit, I too, have caught myself in such a situation, and after a while realized; This is insane! It didn't matter what the argument started over...Nothing was worth losing someone I care about. How far was I willing to take this stupid feud? In retrospect, I knew I had lost everything, and for what? As I sit here, talking to myself, I remember having a dream one night. In the dream, I remember someone telling me I had died...I remember telling them I couldn't be; I was just dreaming... Then, came a firm voice telling me that I was dead. It was over with, and I was not permitted to go back. I can't begin to express the empty, lost feeling I had because of the ways I had left things. I could no longer go back and say... 'I'm Sorry'! I had waited too long. It was too late...
I'm not sure why or how, but suddenly...I woke up!
I guess most of us feel bigger, being right. Ask yourself: Why is it so important to be right all the time? Is a feeling of insecurity, IF we admit we could be wrong? Blind arrogance doesn't leave much room for discussion, and often, the damage done, cannot be UNdone.
Wars are fought, relationships are broken and all around harmony ceases to exist, over something that could have been adequately resolved over a cup of coffee..or maybe tea. Nobody ever wins an argument...And if we slow down enough to see it, a happy medium is usually, right in front of us. It's called compromise! Compromise allows both of us to be, at least partly, right...and still friends...
I have known families to break apart and over the years, the parties involved even forget WHAT they were upset about. They just held this steadfast arrogance and knew there was SOMETHING they didn't like about the other person, but it had lasted so long they forgot, but it didn't matter any more; They wanted no more to do with... even their own blood kin...
I admit, I too, have caught myself in such a situation, and after a while realized; This is insane! It didn't matter what the argument started over...Nothing was worth losing someone I care about. How far was I willing to take this stupid feud? In retrospect, I knew I had lost everything, and for what? As I sit here, talking to myself, I remember having a dream one night. In the dream, I remember someone telling me I had died...I remember telling them I couldn't be; I was just dreaming... Then, came a firm voice telling me that I was dead. It was over with, and I was not permitted to go back. I can't begin to express the empty, lost feeling I had because of the ways I had left things. I could no longer go back and say... 'I'm Sorry'! I had waited too long. It was too late...
I'm not sure why or how, but suddenly...I woke up!
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